Do we still make friends past a certain age?

In case you’re wondering, this is not an ageist post. One where I think that my life is over because I`m 27 and I can`t find a purpose (actually looking forward to my 30s, to be honest). No, this post is merely me wondering about the foundation of friendship. About what makes two people click. About how we`re still friends with people we don`t have much in common with. And how we can`t seem to connect with people that share out interests. So here it goes.

The other day I was watching “Friends from College” on Netflix. I`m not going to lie, some scenes are awkward. The characters are all selfish and they`re involved in the most unrealistic situations. I`m not saying it`s a good TV Show, but it made me think.  Basically, this is about a group of friends that have been friends in college and how they seem to fall into that state of mind when they`re together. Years later, they still bring out the worst in each other. They make the same stupid mistakes they did when they were young. And it was a bit unsettling to see that sometimes I do that with certain people.

Maybe you`re in this situation as well. You see your old mates and act like you`re 16 again. Which is weird because you`re not that person anymore. You`ve changed. So why do you do that? Maybe it`s because you don`t have anything left in common besides those crazy memories. Like I said, it happens to me sometimes. Whilst I have my good friends, I still keep in touch with people I used to go out 10 years ago. Once we meet though, we realize that there`s not much we can talk about, so we reminisce about the good old times. We go out, do some shots and relive our glory days.

Over the years many of my friendships ended. These were people that I was with daily when I was 16-17. But we each went our road and did not have anything in common anymore. So it seemed pointless to meet just because we were once close. I was tired of reliving glory days. I`m happy with the person I`m now, why would I want to be that insecure teenager again? So I cut people out. I don`t regret that decision, but it gets lonely sometimes.

I have 3-4 close friends with whom I talk regularly. But they`re in Romania. So yeah, I can`t say that I`ve made any real friends all these years I`ve lived in London. I do have people that I go out with sometimes, but not the type of friends you confide in. And I can`t help to wonder why is that? Am I the reason? Or do you just reach a certain point in your life when it`s harder to open up?

10 years ago I did not have many worries. I used to trust everyone around me. But now, even when I befriend someone, we don`t talk about important stuff. With work colleagues, even if you`re on good terms, you mainly talk about work and neutral subjects. Other people, you meet for a meal and you just talk nonsense to enjoy the day. It`s hard to start meaningful relations with others. We spend so much time crafting the perfect life online, yet few people know what`s happening in it.

I don`t know, maybe I`m the problem and I should try more. Do you have trouble making new friends? Let me know in the comments.

P.S. I am away on holiday and I`m back on 17th. I`m not taking my laptop, so I`ll have to reply to your comments after that.


  1. Velvet Blush
    07/09/2017 / 4:09 pm

    I think it is definitely getting harder to meet people and have meaningful conversations too! I don't think there's a specific age really where it gets tougher but sometimes I feel like people just don't want to make an effort nowadays, or don't make much other than small talk x Velvet Blush

    • Georgiana Teglas
      19/09/2017 / 8:58 am

      Yeah, it`s hard getting past the small talk. Maybe we just think that nobody is really interested in our lives, so we keep to ourselves.

  2. Sarah
    07/09/2017 / 8:26 pm

    I think it's a lot harder to make friends once you leave school and uni, where you're in an almost forced situation and you're with people for hours at a time so you make the best of it. I definitely have more walls up and am more private since I've got older and worry about things being awkward so much that I avoid social situations just in case! If anyone has tips on meeting new friends I'd love to hear them lol x

    • Georgiana Teglas
      19/09/2017 / 8:59 am

      Completely agree, I`m more private as well. And it`s hard to really befriend coworkers.

  3. Rosanna Briguglio
    08/09/2017 / 11:58 am

    It's definitely a bit more of a challenge past a certain point but I think that we can make friends at any age!Have a lovely weekend :)Rosanna xRose's Rooftop

    • Georgiana Teglas
      19/09/2017 / 8:59 am

      I think that people become more private at a certain point and it gets hard to know someone.

  4. Shireen L. Platt
    09/09/2017 / 3:55 pm

    I find it hard to make new friends these days, seems like he older I get, the harder for me to warm up to meeting new people and socialize. I miss my friends in Malaysia, they are those whom you don't see for 5 years but as soon as I meet them again, we catch up like we were never apart.Shireen⎜Reflection of Sanity

    • Georgiana Teglas
      19/09/2017 / 9:00 am

      It`s the same with my friends from Romania. I have people I socialize with here in the UK, but it`s not the same.

  5. Emily Thorpe
    09/09/2017 / 8:26 pm

    I'm the same as you with a few close friends, I'd definitely like to hope there's plenty of time to make more though! :)Musings & More

    • Georgiana Teglas
      19/09/2017 / 9:01 am

      It`s not impossible, but it`s definitely harder than a few years ago.

  6. Kim Alston
    11/09/2017 / 4:07 pm

    I'm the same way. I've always just had a handful of friends through life. But I've outgrown even them. LOL I think you can make friends throughout your life, but will they stay? Some take different interests. It's harder for me, because I'm not married with children. So others connect more with other families.

    • Georgiana Teglas
      19/09/2017 / 9:03 am

      I know what you mean. I am married, so I have someone to spend time with. But you need friends as well. With that being said, I did have friends that wanted to focus only on their spouse, so our friendship kinda fell apart.

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