I was never one of those people that complain about everything, I always tried to remain positive. At the moment, I honestly feel I`m 100% happy with my life, which is something not a lot of people in their 20s can say. Sure, there`s always room for more money or a bigger house, but I try to appreciate what I already have. I am very lucky to have a loving husband and be surrounded by amazing friends, I have a good workplace and I do a pretty good job at living on my own. However, before I reached this point, I learned a few lessons, some more bitter than others. In the end, though they all taught me something and helped me become the person that I am.
1. Friendships are NOT forever
When you are in high-school your friends are the most important thing in your life and you think that everything will remain the same. But you go to college, get jobs, have other priorities and you just drift away. You also realize that a lot of them were only people you used to hang out/party with because in the moments you needed them, they were not there.
It was very hard letting go of some friendships, but once they ran their course, there`s nothing you can do. If you don`t have anything in common anymore, what can you do? I still have close childhood friends, but I also made some new ones. And maybe in the future, some of these friendships will cease to exist and others will blossom, but you have to remember the good moments and look forward to the future.
2. Your degree might be useless
In this post, you might see a lot of lessons other people told you about already, because they are universal things we all go through. However, not everyone will tell you this truth: your college/Uni degree might be worthless. Don`t get me wrong, I enjoyed going to Uni and I would not trade my major for anything because I loved every single class. But in the end, I went for a completely different job. And what was supposed to be something temporary turned into a career.
Now I don`t want people to get me wrong, I encourage you to go to Uni, it`s an experience that will make you more mature and change the way you view life. All I`m saying is that you should not put all your hopes in a paper.
3. You need to take care of yourself
I remember the days when I was 16 and used to wear a skirt when outside were -10 degrees or the Uni days when for weeks I would eat only fast food. Now things are different, I need to be more careful about what I eat otherwise I get bloated or worse. Not to mention a week of fast food would end up with me buying bigger sizes of jeans. I don`t want to sound like a grandma, but I honestly wish I`d taken better care of myself. At least, I do that now, I try to have a healthy balanced diet and go to the gym as much as I can.
4. Having a budget is essential
Now, you know that excitement when your favourite band has a concert or you see a new bag? Your first instinct is to get it. But as much as you want something, you have to remember that living on your own comes with a cost. There`s the rent, the utilities…That`s why you need to decide what`s important and what`s not. That does not mean you have to deny yourself of materialistic joys, but remember that every purchase comes with a cut from a different category
5. You finally figure out what you want
I don`t think we ever figure out what we really want, but at least, in your 20s, you get a better idea. For instance, if you want to settle down, marry and have kids, then staying with a guy with commitment issues won`t go anywhere. You also find out what you`re good at and pursue a career…or decide to travel the world, whatever makes you happy. Bottom line: in your 20s you are more confident and more prone to follow your dreams, without fearing any failure.
Obviously, there are so many more things you learn, but that would take forever and like I said before, I would repeat a lot of common knowledge facts. I hope you enjoyed this post and I always love reading your opinions, so don`t forget to comment.